Improving Self-Confidence, Stop Comparing

I noticed today as I was watching a morning talk show (something I don't do very often) that I started comparing myself with many of the women in the audience. This one was thinner than me, that one had nicer clothes than I do, and the girl in the back row really knew how to put herself together and on and on.

So here I am taking a few minutes out of my day to relax and I'm starting to feel as though some how I'm not good enough. "What's this about?" I asked myself. I tried to figure out why I automatically started painting myself in the negative as I made these comparisons.

I understand that our brains are huge computers, taking in tons of information and analyzing it. That is why I even picked up on differences between me and these other women. It was something else that cast the negative light on it. That was the little voice that sometimes creeps in and says "maybe you're not good enough."

O.K. after I told that gremlin, the little voice of self-doubt to shut up. I looked at the audience again. This time I looked at the woman who looked so put together. I could pull that off. In fact I thought I could even do it a little better.

The woman with the nicer clothes... well maybe her clothes were nicer or maybe I needed to try some fresh combinations of favorites I already had.


The woman who was thinner.... I may never be as thin as she is but I am working harder each day to get in the best shape possible.


Now instead of making negative comparisons my mind was looking at some possibilities.
Making comparisons that cause us to feel negatively about ourselves rob us of our self-confidence. Try looking at possibilities that build you up and get you looking at what is positive instead of falling into the negative comparisons with others that leave us feeling less than.