Wedding Anniversary

Yesterday was my fourth wedding anniversary. It was great because it also falls on my son in law's birthday. We had a family party with my stepdaughter, my son in law their two children, my two children, my mother in law and my husband's first wife.

Yes we are often a strange group, but everyone gets along. My husband and his first wife had been divorced for many years before we ever met....we actually enjoy each others company. Having the grandkids around is a blast as they are two years old and seven months old and both full of energy.

Maybe because I am older or because it is my second marriage I don't need a big romantic dinner. A family dinner leaves me feeling fulfilled and grateful for my life.
I won't say that this has been the easiest year of married life....

We both have been dealing with some personal family issues and it certainly has taken its toll. I have however learned a lot this year. I have developed my personal boundaries this year.....I have learned to ask for what I need and take care of myself when I feel overwhelmed.

Falling in love is always so easy and relationships can be work. I have come to realize that a relationship that requires work doesn't mean that it is a "bad' relationship. Second marriages and marrying older means you have more experiences you bring with you into the relationship. Blending families is difficult and wonderful all at the same time and the lessons it teaches you are priceless if you are willing to stay open and learn them.

My happily ever after may not be what the fairy tales taught but it is mine and I cherish it.