In-Laws

There are times when I know people are put in my life to teach me certain lessons . Often these people are known as.... "THE IN- LAWS". In-laws are the people you effectively inherit when either you marry or someone in your family of origin marries. These are the people who you don't actually choose yourself.... but there you have it....they are your new brother, sister, son or daughter.

They bring along their own set of beliefs and rituals. You may or may not agree or at times think to yourself... I don't know what(fill in the blank) was thinking when they picked this person. Do you know what I am talking about? Oh and yes I know that I am often that person that others are making the same comment about.

So what are the lessons. First and foremost....it doesn't matter what I think. I learn to keep my opinion to myself. Second....I didn't marry this person and therefore there are reasons I will never understand nor do I need to understand as to why this person is important to one of my family members. Thirdly.....maybe this person is meant to be in my life for a reason and can teach me some wonderful lessons if I just remember to SUSPEND JUDGMENT and remain open to having someone else in my life.

So why bring it up....today my brother and sister in law came to town and as I first saw them I involuntarily tensed up. Yes, we have indeed had our problems in the past but the past is the past. I had an opportunity today and I took it.
....I took a deep breath, put a smile on my face and determined today would be the beginning.....maybe just a small beginning ...to a brand new relationship.

It actually worked out pretty well and I am looking forward to seeing them again during this visit.