A few years ago I would have described myself as a woman who was not comfortable about the subject of money. I wanted more of it in my life and yet I judged myself as being greedy for wanting money...even if I could do a lot of good with it.
That made it difficult for me to ask for a salary that reflected my worth to a company....that made me resentful that the company just couldn't see what I was worth.
In the end that made me feel maybe I wasn't worth all that much...which is not true.
Do you see where I am going with this?
I am by no means the only one who has felt this way. Many, many women I talk to are uncomfortable around the issue of money as a whole as well as their individual finances. They want to be independent but the model many of us viewed as young women was one in which the man managed the money. That has led us to not feeling as comfortable with our capability to take care of ourselves in money matters.
There are thousands of books that give us the tools of how to do the actual managing of money or of course there are great financial planners whose job it is to guide people in making smart money decisions.
If we can't get over our limiting beliefs about money though are we going to be able to make use of these valuable tools or will we continue to shy away from the whole subject?
I really want to know. For me it wasn't until I understood how I was holding myself back in money matters that I was able to step up and take charge of my finances. I had to create a vision and a plan of what I needed for money, what it would mean to me to have it and what I would want to do with it.
This isn't about greed...this is about looking at money for what it is....energy a la quantum physics. It should be able to flow in order to do the most good. It should come in and go out and most of all it should be treated with respect.
Having enough money to take care of
ourselves also shows self respect as well as respecting that it is not other peoples
responsibility to care for us. We have the ability to do it for
our self if we can get out of our own way.